At a recent gathering of people mostly about half my age, goals became the topic of discussion.
They spoke about completing their education, whether it was high school or college. They spoke about career objectives, and future goals were related mostly to family.
After hearing from about 10 of them, it hit me.
Do I have any?
Goals, that is, other than the obvious one of keeping on keeping on.
Aside from maintaining, wanting to keep working for a while yet and simple things like getting to my workouts and trying to stay as mobile as possible, doing things that are better for possible longevity at its best, and just trying to do the right thing?
Already been there, done that for most of the goals these youngsters mentioned.
Well, sure, more college degrees are available if I were so inclined. Or, it is possible to just take classes for self-improvement. But for my needs, that would mean traveling an hour or so to a metro area. Nope, won’t do that.
And establishing family or spousal things, well, that’s been done, too.
That decision was made long ago and this is it. No real questions left there, unless I find myself job hunting for one reason or another.
As far as hobbies, most things in those categories that once helped fill my life are kind of gone for me now.
Like horses and riding?
Revisited that life in my 30s, got a lot from it, but 26 years later, it’s just not in the cards, physically or emotionally. These old bones probably won’t take falls like they used to, and there’s the time factor, too. Horses are serious business and take a huge commitment and need lots of your time.
People mention reading.
It’s not that exciting for me. That’s something that’s always there if you want it. And it’s not very active. I really don’t need more reasons to not be moving around.
I just had to mention active, didn’t I?
Everyone knows my husband is a kayaking nut, but that’s not my bag. Too much time, travel and trouble involved.
I love to see them, but doing the hands on labor of it all doesn’t really draw me in. My green thumb doesn’t work, and it is kind of fruitless to try.
Volunteer work is appealing, but as long as I’m still full timing the work thing, I can’t quite go there yet.
So let’s see…it sounds like I need to get to work on finding some new goals here.
At least I got that much from the conversation.
Or maybe, I just need to be sure and hang around with more people my age and take my lead from them.